Dr Bill Crawford, Ph.D.

Dr Bill Crawford, Ph.D.

Dr Bill Crawford, Ph.D. - Motivational Speaker

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Dr Bill Crawford, Ph.D.
Dr Bill Crawford, Ph.D. - Motivational Speaker

Crawford Performance Solutions

Psychologist, Author, Host of Two PBS Specials

Fee Range: Available upon request
Travels from Houston, TX

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Dr Bill Crawford, Ph.D.

Crawford Performance Solutions

Psychologist, Author, Host of Two PBS Specials

Fee Range: Available upon request
Travels from: Houston, TX

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Clarity, Confidence, & Creativity: Life from the Top of the Mind

By
June 24, 2011

Everyone has heard the statistics... 75% of Americans describe their lives as "very stressful," and with the pace of change, the expectation is that it's just going to get worse. Therefore, as a psychologist and speaker, I try to do more than just give people "stress management" techniques or coping methods. Instead, I first show my audiences and individual clients why so much of the advice about how to deal with these problems will never work, and then give them new information and a step-by-step system for accessing their clarity, confidence, and creativity even in the most difficult situations. The origin of this new information is rooted in the new developments in brain science. For example, most people know that our brains are divided into three parts: the brainstem, the limbic system, and the neocortex. The brainstem (the lower part of the brain) is where our fight-or-flight responses are located, and is also the part of the brain that regulates our heart rate, muscle tension, blood pressure, etc. The middle of our brain is called the limbic system, and this section acts as both a scanner and a router. It scans incoming data and routes it either down to the brainstem, or up to the neocortex (or upper 80% of our brain) where we have access to our interpersonal skills, judgment, creativity, compassion, communication skills, etc. This means that as we move through the day, data comes in from our five senses, and is first examined (scanned) by the limbic system. If the limbic system determines that the information is not problematic or threatening, it sends it up to our neocortex. In this case, our brainstem works in the background regulating our breathing, blood pressure, heart rate, etc. and all is well. However, if the limbic system senses any problem, anything, or anyone that it doesn't like or has identified as a stressor or a threat to either our physical wellbeing or psychological peace of mind, then it sends the information immediately down to the brainstem, bypassing the neocortex! Unfortunately, when we try to deal with the perceived problem from this lower, reactive brain, we are often less than successful, which, of course, has us feeling even more stressed, frustrated, and ineffective. The limbic system interprets this additional frustration as even more negative data, and dutifully sends it right back down to the brainstem creating a self perpetuating cycle. The key to creating and sustaining success in life, therefore, is to first see stress for what it is, not something that is being done to us ("deadlines/difficult people really stress me out") but instead recognize that stress is actually a signal that data is being sent to the lower 20% of our brain. Next, we must be able to shift to the upper 80% (or "The Top of the Mind") so that we can access the interpersonal and problem-solving skills that will allow us to bring our best to life. In my books, presentations, and coaching sessions, I give participants a model for making this shift, a second model for staying in this "Top of the Mind" perspective regardless of the situation, and a third for engaging others (who are themselves stuck in the brainstem) in such a way that they shift from their "resistant brain" to the more "receptive brain" which allows them to hear our suggestions as valuable information. All of these models are described in depth in my book "Life from the Top of the Mind. However, there is one tool that you can use to get at least a sense of what this "Top of the Mind" perspective is like. The effectiveness of this tool lies in the power of questions. You see, when we are talking about engaging very specific parts of the brain, questions are like Google on steroids! Unfortunately, when we are stressed and/or frustrated, we tend to ask what I call "brainstem questions," which are questions about the perceived stressor. Examples include: "What's wrong with these people?" "What were you thinking?" "Why does this always happen to me?" "How many times have I told you . . .?" etc. Regardless of the specifics, questions such as these engage the lower 20% of the brain, and as such, are a big part of the problem. Therefore, to address this problem, I have created an alternative set of neocortex questions (questions that can only be answered by the upper 80% of the brain) that I call "The Four Criteria." The value of these interrogatories is that they allow us to not only evaluate any reactive response, but to also identify a "Top of the Mind" alternative. These Four Criteria or neocortex questions are: 1. Has this thought, emotion, or action been chosen deliberately, or on purpose? Most people would say that they don't choose to be stressed or frustrated on purpose, it just seems to happen to them. 2. How is it working for me? Meaning to what degree do I feel that my stress, frustration, resentment, etc., is helping me becoming more effective and/or encouraging others to hear what we have to say? Again, most people would not identify these reactions as highly effective or desirable. 3. Is this thought, emotion, or action making the statement I want to make about who I am? This question goes way beyond just avoiding the problem and speaks to the fact that everything we do makes a statement about who we are. Just as most people would say that they are not becoming stressed, annoyed, and/or frustrated on purpose, most would also say that these would not be the words they would choose to define who they are ("I am someone who is reactive, frustrated, stressed, annoyed, etc.") However, when we say that the challenges we face "make us" feel or do one thing or another ("Deadlines make me nervous." "Difficult people make me angry," etc.) then what we are really saying is that the negative situations and people in our lives have the power to define us! Given that we do not want to be defined by the negative aspects of life, I believe we must take personal responsibility for this process and define ourselves on purpose. As mentioned, the first step in this process is to determine what part of the brain we are coming from, and evaluate whether our current thoughts, emotions, and/or actions are ones we want to feed or change. The first three questions of "The Four Criteria" can go a long way toward making this determination because, as discussed, they are "neocortex questions," and thus engage the upper 80% of our brain in the process of evaluation. However, the fourth question is one that many people report being even more powerful than the first three combined: 4. Would I teach this thought, emotion, or action to a child or to someone I cared for? When I get to this point in my seminars and ask this question, a knowing silence always falls over the participants. The reason for this is that no one would purposefully teach his or her children (or anyone they care for) to be stressed, frustrated, depressed, or confused. Thus, this question completes the initial evaluation of our thoughts and emotions in a very powerful way. Having asked and answered these questions, we are in the position to use the Four Criteria to come up with a solution, meaning that we can now ask: "Okay, if I was choosing my thoughts, emotions, and actions on purpose...in a way that I believe would be most effective...in a way that makes the statement I want to make about who I am...and in a way I would teach/recommend to someone I cared for,"... what would that look like? How would I be thinking, feeling, and acting differently if this were the case? Once we have this new vision of what we want to practice (versus just what we want to avoid) we are then in a position to use the rest of the "Life from the Top of the Mind System to not only access our clarity, confidence, and creativity, but to bring these qualities to all aspects of our lives (see http://www.billcphd.store.php for more information). Bottom line: if your plan for creating change in your life doesn't include information on accessing this most intelligent, capable part of the brain, your potential for success will be limited. Soft skills can only go so far if they are not backed up by the latest information on exactly where the qualities you seek reside, and how to bring them to life.

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