TJ Hoisington

TJ Hoisington

TJ Hoisington - Motivational Speaker

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Best-Selling Author and Mindset Thought-Leader inspires individuals and teams to believe in possibilities and unleash your greatness within. Expect RAVING REVIEWS! TJ Hoisington�s presentations are Inspirational, Engaging, and Results Driven.

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TJ Hoisington
TJ Hoisington - Motivational Speaker

Hoisington Leadership International

Unleash Your Greatness Within!

Best-Selling Author and Mindset Thought-Leader inspires individuals and teams to believe in possibilities and unleash your greatness within. Expect RAVING REVIEWS! TJ Hoisington�s presentations are Inspirational, Engaging, and Results Driven.

Fee Range: Available upon request
Travels from Seattle, WA

TJ Hoisington - Motivational Speaker

TJ Hoisington

Hoisington Leadership International

Unleash Your Greatness Within!

Best-Selling Author and Mindset Thought-Leader inspires individuals and teams to believe in possibilities and unleash your greatness within. Expect RAVING REVIEWS! TJ Hoisington�s presentations are Inspirational, Engaging, and Results Driven.

Fee Range: Available upon request
Travels from: Seattle, WA

For more information about booking TJ Hoisington,
Visit https://www.speakermatch.com/profile/TJHoisington/
Or call SpeakerMatch at 1-866-372-8768.

4 Ways to Communicate with People Successfully

By
September 29, 2018

People are too anxious to talk about themselves. We live somewhere between the "Me Generation (30 years ago) and the ME, Me, Me, Generations (recently) - according to Time Magazine. Unfortunately, many people miss the mark when it comes to connecting and communicating with people, so here are four ways to communicate with people successfully.

 

Watch the video! 

 

Habit #1: Have a Positive Countenance

People want to be around and associate with people who are pleasant to be around. Be positive. Be engaging and personable.

 

Habit #2: Be Curious

The sign of a great conversationalist is a person who asks questions and sincerely seeks to understand. Find out as much as you can. Seek to understand the other parties POV (point of view), desires, and needs before sharing yours.

 

Habit #3: Listen More

"Hearing" is a faculty, but "listening" is a skill...a choice. Great communicators spend 20% of the time asking questions, and 80% of the time LISTENING. It also helps to restate what you heard.

 

Habit #4: Show Empathy

Show you care. Respond with a spirit of understanding or at least the impression that you want to understand. When someone is sharing something personal, frustrating, or exciting respond appropriately and with heart.

 When I first posted the video above as a "post" rather than an article here on Linkedin, someone asked a question in the comment section. The question was,

"How then do you keep them to the core purpose of your meeting if they keep talking about themselves?" 

Here's my response:

That’s a great question! It is likely the other people haven't read this article or watched the video. There is a delicate balance for sure. It can be frustrating when someone gets carried away talking about themselves and sometimes you must rein them in.

 That said, my primary focus of the video was to emphasize the importance of listening and showing empathy enough that the other party feels heard BEFORE you share your offer or POV.

 So what does that look like? After you’ve given them time to share and you’ve clarified their desires or concerns, you can then position and speak about your product and service...always tying together the benefit of your product/service as it relates to their wants/needs (if you are in sales, for example).

 It also does not mean that we NEVER share things about ourselves. Instead, don't share too much about YOURSELF or you run the risk of losing rapport and frustrating the other party.

 One last distinction. When you FIRST approach someone, you may want to get to your point quickly, especially if you are the person approaching them. This means you might speak of your product and services initially and momentarily, in a manner of introducing yourself and your purpose, but immediately begin asking questions to find out their needs/wants. If you don't position yourself early on and immediately start asking questions, it can come off as an interrogation. So initially, "get to the point" quickly, but don't live their long.

Read your audience. Start asking questions. Be curious. Listen. 

Originally published on by SpeakerMatch Speakers Bureau