Have you had a conversation with someone personally or professionally and they misunderstood what you meant? Your verbal communication and your non-verbal communication may not match. The belief is that 55% of communication is body language, 38% is the tone of voice, and 7% is the actual words spoken. People watch your face when you are speaking and take cues about how they should react or feel from the look on your face.
Your eyes, their movement, even your eyebrows and your mouth can display your true feelings and your character. When it comes to nonverbal communication, your eyes are one of the most expressive parts of your body. Research shows we can read sadness, disgust, anger, joy, fear, surprise and over 50 different mental states such as curiosity, interest, dislike or boredom, in another person’s eyes. Research also shows that eye contact can demonstrate attraction or attentiveness. You make more eye contact with people you like and less eye contact with people you don’t like.When you look directly at a person, and maintain eye contact, people will feel that you are sincere, honest and interested in what they have to say. If you want to know how a person feels about you, pay attention to how much they look at you and of course, the expression in their eyes.
"When the eyes say one thing, and the tongue another, a practiced man relies on the language of the first." --Ralph Waldo Emerson
"People may hear your words, but they feel your attitude." --John C. Maxwell
Published in LinkedIn August, 2017
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