"Wishing is passive. Wanting is powerful; that's why it is trained out of us in our early socialization." Is there something socially unacceptable about saying, "I want that"? One might think so, judging by the number of parents who instinctively respond with, "You can't have it." After enough repetitions, "can't have" starts to sound like "don't bother wanting." And so the innate desire to strive for something just beyond our reach is all too often stifled in childhood; thus society pays an unknown price for the privilege of well-behaved children. In this award-winning speech, David Otey serves up equal measures of humor and poignancy as he engages his listeners' craving for the affirmation of desire that is a prerequisite for motivation to action. Appropriate audiences: adults and students high-school and above. Especially well-suited for parents, educators, and child-development professionals. NOTE: To see a shortened version of this program presented as a Toastmasters contest speech, click on Videos.