I was at a church service one Sunday morning. A woman stood at the pulpit and spoke for a few minutes. She then proceeded to ask that folks stand up when she mentioned a person they knew. • Please stand if you are a widow. • If you are related to a widow. • If you work with a widow. • If you lived near or next door to a widow. • If it’s possible that someday you may become a widow. (50% of all married couples will become widowed.) When the ENTIRE congregations was standing, she asked that everyone please look around. She stated, “So, this really does touch everyone’s life.” Everyone either knows one or will become one. That woman is my friend and author of The Widow or Widower Next Door. (In the book, she shorted widow or widower to “wid.”) Why did she ask them to stand when they recognized someone they knew? Why was she trying to make her point that everyone is, knows one or will become a widow? Because “wids” are invisible, untouched, unmentioned, unrecognized and even unacknowledged. Ruth Papalas The average age of a widow is 59 ½.