Motivating Your Child R –Retain a positive and respectful relationship with your kids. • This will allow you to be most influential with them • Be supportive and encouraging instead of worrying and nagging. Be kind and firm. E – Embrace imperfections & Relax your standards • Relax your standards about how well and how quickly they get things done • Try not to rush them or be to picky • Focus on the fact they are trying • Be creative ➢ (For Example challenge your child to race with mom to see who gets to bed first) L – Lead by example • Your kids will be motivated, when you mean what you say, and say what you mean ➢ For example: If you want your kids to stop fighting, try to resolve your conflicts with your partner in a kind way • Practice the “when you” rule, one of life’s lessons is that we get the goodies after we do the work • I get paid after I complete the work on my job • When you finish your homework, you are welcome to watch that movie you wanted to see • Enforce the rule and stick to it A - Avoid harsh criticism • So much of your child’s lack of motivation might be his anxiety or shame. • To much anxiety blocks your child’s ability to think, and to have entrance to the portion of the brain that aids them with motivation. • Many kids give up trying because they do not want to risk being criticized and feeling worse T - Tap into your child’s intrinsic motivation • See things from your child’s point of view • Talk one-on-one about the importance of the activity • Offer to help when they really need it • Ask for your child’s solutions for problem behaviors E - Express Appreciation • Focus on their efforts and progress more than on the results • Compliment your child when you mean it Loving your children is loving yourself!